Your child's friends are important in their lives. You've probably realized that friends come and go. In some cases, interests change. In other cases, something happens that forces the parting of ways with those once considered friends. I have close friends that date back to grammar school. (And I'm not going to say how very long ago that was!)
But what about your kids? Do they struggle with friendships? Are you worried about who they choose to "hang out" with? Are they a good friend to others?
You can identify the friendships that have a real foundation.
Here are 5 indicators of a true friendship:
Friendship withstands disagreements.
Anybody you consider a true friend can attest to the fact that disagreements undoubtedly happen. But that person can also confirm that your bond withstands those disagreements.True friends know that regardless of the differences or disagreements, the foundation of the relationship still exists.
A sign of true friendship is when two people continue to live well with each other after a disagreement.
Friends keep it real.
The beauty about friendship is that there is rarely any pretense. Friends share their vulnerabilities with each other. They trust that their quirks are accepted by each other.
True friends hardly worry about what you think of their actions or behaviors. They know that if there's one person in the world who understands them, it's you!
It's also safe to say that your real friends avoid sugar-coating anything they're saying to you. Expect to get their opinion as real as it comes!
Confidentiality is respected.
When the matter of confidentiality comes up, you can tell a friend by whether your request for confidentiality is respected. True friends acknowledge the importance of maintaining your trust.
With true friends in your life, you can feel comfortable sharing your deepest secrets. Your secrets will be just as safe with friends as they are when you keep them to yourself.
Your private space is important to you, and a genuine friend understands that. They understand when to step aside and give you the time you need. And they do this without feeling offended.
Support is unconditional.
It's true that friends sometimes have different interests and beliefs. But even when viewpoints are different, true friends still offer support to each other.
Friends usually offer advice to each other. And even when the advice you get is different from what you want to hear, you know it's coming from a genuine sentiment.
If you need someone to lean on when you're going through a rough spot, your real friends instinctively know. They'll show up when you least expect it and bring loads of hugs with them!
Achievements are celebrated.
It's unlikely that you'll find a true friend who doesn’t celebrate your achievements. The questionable friends may feel envious of your success. But true friends get just as excited as you do about your victories.
You'll likely even find a true friend helping you prepare for an upcoming job interview. Even if it's a success they want for themselves, they're happy just knowing you stand a good chance of being the victor.
Sincere friends take the time to congratulate each other. They give gifts, treat each other to dinner, and make other special gestures. They like to show that they care.
Now I'd like to hear from you.
Do your kids have anybody who embodies a true friend after looking at these indicators? Is it a struggle? A genuine friend can be difficult to find.
They also have to commit to being that kind of friend to others. Friendship works both ways!
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